Communication, the key to avoiding the vacation from hell

Communication, the key to avoiding the vacation from hell

Most of us have been there. We've planned for a nice getaway months in advance to relax and recoup. Whether it involves a group or a single individual, no matter how wonderful the setting, for some odd reason, it ends in disaster. This is an all too common occurence in the realm of vacationing. I remember being told of a vacation planning done for the kids by their parents. There was much thought and preparation put into it. A verbal fight started between the siblings on their way to their destination. when one of the parents stepped in to make peace. One of the children responded with, "This was your idea. I didn't want to come on this trip anyway. I just want you to spend more time at home." Needless to say, the spirit of that vacation drastically changed.

Much time, money, and effort could have been saved if there would have been clear communication prior to planning the vacation. Believe it or not. A vacation begins at home. It should not be some where you go to get away from your troubles. It should be where you go to celebrate your closeness. If you don't care to be in the company of your loved one at home, it is not going to get any better abroad. That is the number one reason for having a failed vacation. There is no excuse for not keeping in contact with your loved one's state of being. Troubles that begin at home are like glue. They don't become detached when you decide to take a vacation. Remember, where ever you go, you are taking you along.

Find out why you want to take a vacation. It could be that you really want to get away from each other and feel that going to a different location will place activities in the way of having to endure each other's company. Having a heart to heart about why you want to get away could save you money by realizing you don't need an extended getaway. The worst time to try and get "real" with your loved one is while on vacation. If you feel you must deal with what has been bothering you, just let your comapnion know that you would like to have a personal, heart felt conversation when you get back. And you feel this vacation is going to help you relax and feel at ease to state your feelings and take your relationship to an even higher level. Reassure your comapnion that this is a good thing.

After that, relax and enjoy the outing. You should no longer have trouble enjoying the rest of your vacation because you do not have to worry about dreading the ending of it. By putting off a touchy subject and promising to talk about it in a civil manner later, you will not have that tension in the pit of your stomache knowing that once the vacation's over you have to deal with that issue. A restful vacation will help wear away the jagged edges of what needs to be handled. Granted, you should be doing this verbal exercise long before any vacation is taken. But most definitely you should take this approach while you are enroute to your vacation spot and once you reach your destination.

Remeber to have fun with your loved one, family, friends, etc. Proper communciation is the key to saving what would otherwise be an expensive arguement fuel. While on vacation, focus on the positives in your relationship. You do not have to trivialize the problems. You just have to realize that there are rules. And the rules of getting away is that you are getting away to peace, relaxation, reflections of nice things. All who are involved with any vacation should be made aware of and agree to the terms of the vacation or you do not go on vacation. Doing that will result in a high probability that you will have the vacation of a life time.

Tim Taylor has been helping people start and maintain healthy relationships through providing opportunities to make meaningful verbal expressions

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