How to make an emotional connection

How to make an emotional connection with anyone

Humans are the only known beings that have the gift of natural thoughtful speech. We have the ability to express ourselves in multiple langauges, and untold physical gestures. So why does it seem so difficult to connect with our peers? And seemingly even more impossible, make that all important emtional connection. What is it that sets that enviable person that can strike up a winning conversation at a whim and become the star attraction in any social setting? Is that feature an art or a science? I will wager that it's neither...it's a biological function shared by the vast majority of the human race.

Take a baby for instance, whether upon further inspection the infant turns out to be a strong argument for evolution, that bundle of joy will always prompt endearment from onlookers. The same goes for a person with an injury in public. They will always get sympathizers who want to hear their story and offer their condolences. So what's the deal with the average Joe or Josephine will they have to fake injury or call rent-a-baby to get the same attention? No, of course not. The common denominator to both scenarios is what keeps you from making that emotional connection. It scares the common human to think they would have to resort to such a level that strips them of the thing that gives comfort and safety, yet makes it so difficult to build a winning relationship.

It's that feared state of vulnerability. You set yourself up to being physically and emotionally wounded by someone else by being rejected or taken advantage of. Yet, in order to really connect with someone, you must display your true self to them. What you want is compatibility. And that can't be achieved unless you reveal your true self. You may be thinking that if you expose your self to someone, you run the risk of them presenting a false personhood to you in exchange for your real view. But that has no bearing to you connecting with your soul mate. Granted, you should not reveal every single thing about you up front, but what ever you do show it should be genuine, sincere, and unapolgetic. I mean if you start putting your card on the line, you should not talk in a way that you are waiting for their approval of who you are. You should speak in a manner like this is what I'm about take it or leave it.

I guarantee you if you use that approach, you will be far more successful at winning great relationships in all your efforts. Making yourself vulnerable in the beginning will pay off in big dividends down the road. Being open allow you to ask more intimate questions of your love interest early on without coming across as weird. You have to use common sense in your attempts to woo a partner. Be sure to know what is appropriate to tell and ask at the correct stage of the relationship. Typically, you will create a great relationship the same way you build a friendship...common interests. Start with the same things you like or even dislike for that matter and go from their. Make sure you find out why they like/dis-like what they do to save yourself from an awkward moment. You would hate to find out your reason for liking something is tied in to why they strongly dis-like something. That will produce a false positive connection that could be a potential relationship breaker down the road.

Tim Taylor has helped relationships of all types blossom to their fullest potential by providing an atmosphere through written words from the heart that help make that all important emotional connection

by Tim Taylor -

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