The best way to strike up a conversation with someone

The best way to strike up a conversation with someone
Tim Taylor

One of the best ways to meet someone and build an early emotional connection with them is still in that fear inducing arena of vulverability. In a place with a lot of people, one thing you will notice is that you are more isolated socially. If you have ever been at a convention, concert, or on a busy sidewalk, you may have noticed that in all that nearness to other humans, most people at best give only a glancing look to one another. On the other hand, if you are on a street or in a place with just a few people, you are very aware of the others' movements or where abouts. The reason is that you feel more vulnerable facing a lone entity than you do in a crowd. The saying is true that there is safety in numbers..or at least perceived safety.

So how do you approach a total stranger, and even worse, a total stranger that you are attracted to and strike up a conversation in hopes of making a connection and building a relationship? You make them feel like they are in the seat of power; able to retreat at any time and any way they choose. What I mean is make yourself vulnerable to their superior knowledge of their surroundings, making you look like the one in distress and they are the solution. I don't mean that you not be honest. But you give them the opportunity to express themselves without having to put up a defensive wall. The average person is more than happy to help out someone in trouble.

The best way to do that is to simply ask for help in locating a known place or a place that would be of interest to the general public. You could use the "Please forgive me for bothering you, but I'm having trouble locating _____ could you help me out? Or, "What is the best spot for a great meal and sight seeing?" Those are just two examples, but you get the point. You can fine tune your questions to fit any situation and go from there. One of the biggest problems to starting and building a compatible relationship is trying to find ice breakers that don't leave you out in the cold if don't make a good impression. You could compliment somone on their pet's grooming and ask who is their pet groomer and how long did it take them to find a good one. The sky is the limit. The thing is, with these openers, you can go on to deeper conversation to see if there is a possible connection.

It's not being dishonest, it's using a known attraction to ride on in order to move to an "interview" to see if there is anything there. People love compliments that validate their actions. You may discover that the personal is too self absorbed with whatever to be a real match and you can move on without using words that led them to believe you were romantically interested in them. Who knows, you may wind up building your friendship list as you seek out a romantic relationship. And we all know

Tim Taylor has helped build and maintain healthy relationships by providing people from all walks of life opprotunities to make meaningful statements that make a lasting emotional connection.

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